ASPIRATIONS

I am 30 years old at this point. Why do I bring up my age? Well while most “normal” people have their lives all figured out at this point, I don’t. At least, not fully. Take my parents for example. Even my younger sisters. My youngest sister, Abbey, is a nurse in Philadelphia. My other sister, Caroline, works for IBM. They both live independently with their boyfriends, or are in the process of moving in.

Yes, I have what I consider the “Best Job in the World” BUT there are still certain things I still hope to accomplish. I have been dating Allie, my girlfriend and love of my life, for close to a decade at this point. I want to marry Allie and spend the rest of my life with her.

With that comes my next aspiration: Family. Due to circumstances beyond anyone’s control, it is dangerous and next to impossible for Allie to have kids naturally. But that setback aside, adoption is something I would consider. True, they would not be “our” kids in the biological sense, but hey…you know what they say. One person’s trash is another person’s treasure.

Just to clarify, I have nothing against my biological family. I am extremely close to my parents (my Mom more than anything), my sisters, pets, relatives, et cetera. But I want my own future. I want to have full control of my life. Ok…maybe that’s unrealistic (unexpected circumstances come up) but as much control as possible.

Piggybacking on that topic, I want my kid(s) to carry on my legacy after I’m dead and gone. I want a son more than a daughter. And no, that is NOT sexist or misogynistic in any way. See, I want someone to carry on my last name (Whalen) in my own family after I die. I do not want my last name—at least in my family with Allie—to die with me.

I mentioned my job as an Autism self-advocate. I love it! I couldn’t ask for a better job or group of people to work with and for! But while I would NEVER under any circumstances want to sever ties with this company, I would like to have my own Autism advocacy business. Hey…maybe we could be partners!

So what are your life goals and aspirations? Let me know in the comments and thanks for reading!

-Tom

Author: AuTom Spectrum Blog

I have Autism and am a self-advocate and public speaker. On the side I do stand-up comedy. I live in Baltimore County and have an AMAZING girlfriend

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