I read an article just now that I would like to discuss. The article’s title was “ARE YOU HAVING STRESS RAISING YOUR AUTISTIC CHILD? HERE’S HOW TO DEAL WITH IT.”. Now right off the bat I have an issue with the article. I see and understand where the author of the article is coming from, but using words like “Stress”, “Autistic”, and “Deal with it” I feel are kind of demeaning. I think they could have come up with a better and frankly nicer way of wording that. And that’s just the title!
I’d like to quote the opening line for the article. It says, and I quote, “Imagine the doctor telling you that your child has autism. This happened to me and I was very devastated.” So again a very negative undertone. But wait! There’s more!
Another segment says, “I know that raising a typical child is stressful. However, raising an autistic kid is even more stressful. This is because you are constantly dealing with tantrums, meltdowns, trying to ensure that they don’t run away, going to therapists and doctors and avoiding sounds and sights that give them sensory overload. In this article, I’ll give you tips of managing this stress.”
It sounds to me like this writer is condemning a diagnosis of Autism. Not just that, but the article makes parents of Autistic individuals like villains as well. The author of the article, Caroline Musyoka, actually said that parents of children with Autism only focus on their own kids. Well the same could be said for parents of “normal” kids, too. Autistic or not, kids are always getting into some kind of trouble or mischief.
Look, I get that people on the Spectrum can be a handful and, quite frankly in my experience, a pain in the ass for the parents. I understand that. The article implores parents of kids on the Spectrum to put their personal needs first. I semi-agree with this. Mental health is important for all involved. But I think it should work both ways here.
In the article, as stated earlier, “…I was very devastated.” Why? You’re making it sound like it’s a death sentence…for you and your kid. It’s not. Are you so self-centered that you’d be happier and less “devastated” if you didn’t have your son at all? Honestly, to me, that is what it sounds like.
Caroline states that she was “In denial and did not want to accept that my son had Autism”. Am I the only one who is offended by this logic? Now in the end of the article, Caroline does try to spin it into a positive, but I think the damage is done. I have attached a link to the article so you can read it for yourselves. I am not going to go line-by-line and give my opinion on every single one in this post.
Just read it for yourself and let me know what you think. Thanks for reading!