I think friendship plays a huge role in my personal life. Take me and Allie for example. I didn’t ask her out after talking to her for 5 minutes. I had just gotten out of a bad, shitty, controlling relationship and wanted to “feel out” who my next girlfriend was going to be. I had known Allie from a place called Workforce Technology Center in Baltimore City. We kinda went our separate ways after that and reunited in college. Truth be told, Allie wasn’t even my first choice to ask out. (Sorry, babe.) I was interested in another girl and she turned me down. So I called Allie the day after Christmas in 2012 and asked her if she wanted to go out with me. I thought she’d hung up because there was a long pause on the other end of the line. I asked, “Allie, you still there?” She goes, “What did you just say?” After repeating asking her out, she responded, “I’ve been waiting for you to ask me that.” And we’ve been madly in love ever since. Having said that, Allie isn’t the only girl in my life. I have other friends that are women that mean a lot to me. One of my childhood friends is a girl and she means the world to me.

So yeah friendships are VERY important in my life. It’s not just women, either. My best friend, John, who I have known literally my entire life, is like a brother to me. I would not trade our friendship for anything. Then there’s family relationships. My sisters Abbey and Caroline are quite possibly the best people in my life…apart from Allie. My parents I love to the ends of the Earth and then some. To me, familial relationships are the most important thing in the world. I am very fortunate in the sense that I am loved by not just family, but by friends and colleagues alike. My boss at my speaking job is my biggest ally outside of my friends and family. I feel very supported by everyone I am in close proximity with, even if we do not always agree. (That includes my dad…we don’t always see eye-to-eye and he annoys me, but we’re still family dammit!)

Actually going back to family for a second, I owe a HUGE amount of gratitude to my sister Caroline. Back in October of 2018, she did the Kennedy Krieger Institute CARD Conference with me. If it weren’t for Caroline, I never would have been able to fill that 75-minute time slot. So thank you Caroline. Plus, it meant the world to me having a family member instead of a “professional” doing it with me. I’d take working with family over a stranger or “expert” any day.

My boss at PFA I count as an ally because she “gets” Autism because of her son. She lives with someone on the Spectrum and I love that she employs people who actually know what they are doing, for lack of a better term. She doesn’t have Autism and doesn’t pretend to get it. That’s why I love her so much.

I think it’s the little successes in life that add up to one big ultimate success. I think forming bonds and friendships with people is one of those successes. I like the feeling of being accepted by people. Than in and of itself, to me, is a success. So I want to hear from you. How important are relationships and friendships in your everyday life? Feel free to comment and, as always, thanks for reading!


Author: AuTom Spectrum Blog

I have Autism and am a self-advocate and public speaker. On the side I do stand-up comedy. I live in Baltimore County and have an AMAZING girlfriend


  1. I love you too hon! I have other friends from school that I talk to and get along with. My friends from Norbel are still in contact. We act
    Crazy on the school Facebook page some of my classmates made. My friends and my family are a huge part of my life. My mom is my best friend other then you. I am really close to her. I am really close to my cousins. My three crazy brothers who I love! They may drive me crazy, but we are family. You are my love, and my everything! I love you honey! ❤️ I am so madly in love with you! ❤️


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