PARENTS’ DECISIONS

I think the worst thing parents can do to their kids, barring anything illegal, depends on the kids’ gender. I have said this before and I will say it again. If you have a boy, the worst thing I think you can do is circumcise your kids. I am vehemently against it, but before I get too controversial or go on a tangent, I honestly think the worst thing parents can do to their kids, male or female, is feeding them this pressure of “I hope you get married and have kids that are just like you!” Why am I against parents saying this? Well I think it puts a crap ton of pressure on people to find the “perfect” person. And that’s bullshit. Nobody is perfect. Also what if you don’t want kids? Some people are perfectly content just being with their significant other…or alone. Then there is the “I hope your kids are exactly like you” aspect. What if you are a completely ignorant and insensitive asshole? And why would I want someone exactly like me? I’ve spent my entire adult life kinda trying not to be like other people. I like being different. I know when I have kids, if I have kids, if I have a boy I will leave him intact and not pressure him into finding that “perfect girl”. I know that he will find the right person when he is ready. And if I have a daughter, I will teach her that it is ok to be different. Not a rebel, per se, but that you do not have to give in to social norms. I think it’s this American mindset that men and women both have to have those perfect ideal bodies. Men are almost required to be circumcised and have six packs to be accepted. Women are expected to shave their bodies and be almost submissive to their male counterparts. My girlfriend, Allie, (sorry hon) fits into neither of these categories. I do not care…now. I mean, I was raised around people that tried to be part of the “in” crowd. So all the girls I saw or dated before Allie were clean-shaven. So when I saw Allie’s for the first time, I thought “Well that’s kind of weird and gross.” But now I do not care. It’s who she is and I love her regardless. And I know she loves me for who I am, too. So I know when you meet the right person you know. It feels surreal. I know I have found my “perfect” woman and cannot imagine my life without her. But going back to my original premise, I think parents do need to stop pressuring their kids into things. School is another one. Now am I knocking education? No, not at all. But I do think after a certain point, kids should have the option to say “I’m done” or “I want to keep going.” I tried college and it wasn’t for me. Honestly, I think one of the best decisions I ever made, controversial as it sounds, is quitting college. I did not care for college and if I hadn’t dropped out of college, I never would have found Itineris, gotten my two jobs, or any of the stuff I do now. I enjoy life now. Me personally? I used to dread going to school because it seemed mundane and boring to me doing the same thing day after day after day after day. I do not like repetition that much. I like variety. So I think giving kids the option instead of forcing things on them will actually make them more willing to try things that are beneficial. I am NOT saying education isn’t important. Please understand that. But I learn better hands-on as opposed to sitting in a chair for hours on end listening to someone tell me shit I will probably never use in my life. Not that it isn’t important, but it seemed like extraneous info. So that’s it from me. I want to hear from you. What do you disagree with when it comes to parenting? Thanks for reading!

-Tom

Author: AuTom Spectrum Blog

I have Autism and am a self-advocate and public speaker. On the side I do stand-up comedy. I live in Baltimore County and have an AMAZING girlfriend

One thought on “PARENTS’ DECISIONS”

  1. I love you too hon! ❤️ I do disagree with the circumcision which I know you understand. I know that you are perfect for me! I couldn’t imagine my life without you! I have been so much happier since leaving school. I have been able to be more involved with People On The Go and being able to do what interests me.

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