I have to put it out there. I have read that people on the Autism Spectrum are incapable of feeling empathy, sympathy, or love. I am calling bullshit on this. I am very much in love with my girlfriend of 6 ½ years, Allie. I have never felt this way about anyone ever before. And I do care about Allie more than anything. I know people on the Spectrum that have never had a boyfriend or girlfriend but have had crushes. In that regard, I consider myself lucky. But I think it is presumptuous of “normal” people to think that people on the Spectrum are incapable of basic human emotions. We are people, just like anyone else. I don’t know whether to be offended or amused by the fact that people actually believe this misconception. Who says people on the Spectrum can’t feel love and get married? *cough* Trump *cough*. I hope to get married to Allie one day because she really is the love of my life. Even if it’s just a commitment ceremony to start off, I’d be satisfied with that. I want to spend the rest of my life happy, just like any other sane human being. I have yet to meet one person who’s like, “Yeah…I’m happy just being alone and miserable”. That’s not human mentality. I do not think anyone wants to die miserable and alone. It’s a basic instinct, I think, to want companionship. So can people on the Spectrum feel love? Absolutely! Even if they can’t communicate it or voice that they love someone, whether it be a spouse, friend, or family member, that emotion is still there. Now I realize “love” has a few different levels, but at its core, I think love is a deep feeling for someone or something. I love my family, but I also love my jobs. See? Two different examples of what love is and can be. I love the fact that I get to wake up happy and, for the most part, healthy every day. I love even more, the fact that I get to wake up happy, mostly healthy, and wanted every day. I know Allie and other people genuinely care about me and that is a feeling that cannot be described or replaced. So I want to hear from you guys. What do you think “love” is and how do you think it impacts people on the Spectrum, if at all? Thanks for reading!


Author: AuTom Spectrum Blog

I have Autism and am a self-advocate and public speaker. On the side I do stand-up comedy. I live in Baltimore County and have an AMAZING girlfriend

One thought on “AUTISM AND LOVE”

  1. I love you too honey! You are the love of my life! I am so luck to call you mine! I want to spend the rest of my life with you! You make me the happiest person in the world! I love you so much! My love! My everything!


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