CAN PEOPLE CHANGE?

This post comes from a daily journal with questions my sister Abbey got me for Christmas. The question was, “Can People Change?”. In my experience, my answer is yes and no. I think adolescents (kids before puberty) and even into teenage years can change. Now whether that is for the better or worse is up to them. Now when I say before puberty, I don’t mean their voices cracking or growing facial hair or body hair or anything like that. I mean character. I think character is a Hell of a lot more important than physical looks. People change their attire and appearances all the time. Character, though, is kind of a different story. It’s harder to change your personality than it is your underwear. I like to think I have a good judgement of character, but it’s not up to me to judge whether you are “good” or “bad”. Example: you could be the vilest person I have ever met, but that does not mean you are “bad” or “evil”. Maybe you have some shit going on that I am not privy to. Likewise, you might have a great personality and have a great life, but still unhappy with how you have turned out. You are your own biggest critic. If you think you should change, then it’s up to you. I am not here to say “Don’t change if you are unhappy”. As Mr. Rogers said, “It’s you I like. I like you just the way you are”. But it’s entirely possible to be unhappy with yourself. I think that is a natural phenomenon. But I think it is hard to entirely change yourself. Personality is, well, a personal choice. I think people can change for good or worse. It’s up to them. I am not changing for anyone or anything because I am happy with who I am. And I think if you can accept you for you and be happy with it, good for you! Change is tough, but sometimes necessary. I feel I am rambling here. I want to hear from you about what you think about the “change” topic. Thanks for reading and as always feel free to write in! Thanks!

-Tom

Author: AuTom Spectrum Blog

I have Autism and am a self-advocate and public speaker. On the side I do stand-up comedy. I live in Baltimore County and have an AMAZING girlfriend

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