MEN AND WOMEN: SIMILAR BUT DIFFERENT

My writing prompt for today/this week is actually a two-in-one.  Lucky you… The prompts I am writing on have to do with sex (meaning gender…not the other meaning). The prompt questions are “Do you think girls are raised differently from boys? If so in what ways?” and “Do you think you are treated differently because you are a boy or a girl?” I think there are a lot of factors that go into both of these. I think society plays a crucial role in how men and women are supposed to look and/or act. I think “normal” society—Americans in particular—have this media-based image or criteria for how men and women are supposed to look and behave.

If I can write this without getting into trouble, let’s start with looks. This may get somewhat uncomfortable, and for that, I apologize but this is my prompt after all. Americans have this image in their warped heads that women are supposed to shave every single part of their body imaginable except for their heads. And that if you don’t, you’re absolutely disgusting! Whereas if men shave anything except for their faces…”QUEER!” Maybe I am an oddball or weirdo for saying this, but if you shave or have hair…if I like you I honestly do not give two shits about your hair status.

Women have this image built up about men, too. It’s not like men think stereotypically about women and that’s it. Here is where it might get a little more uncomfortable for some people—men in particular. I think women have this jaded idea that their man is supposed to be sexy. Like, Hugh Jackman or George Clooney sexy. HA! Yeah right… Ladies, I am anything but that good-looking. For Christ’s sake! I have a pot belly and multiple scars. And have Autism. But I can overlook all that if it weren’t for one thing that almost every woman in America expects their man to be…circumcised.

That is almost an obligation with men in America to make their girlfriends or wives happy and satisfied. I hate this ideal and media image. I do not believe in it. Why, you ask? Um…about that…sure I am now, but I wasn’t until I was 17 or 18. And was aware of everything! OK. Is everyone nice and uncomfortable now?

I think men and women may be judged based on gender. It is getting better in today’s society, but look at 50+ years ago. Men go to work’ women stay home and raise the kids. That’s it. Period. Nowadays, it is socially acceptable for both sexes to work and have jobs. BUT having said that, women still make less than men do. And it is still unusual for women to do what are considered “men’s jobs”. Jobs like plumber or construction worker. So sexist as it sounds, I think men do have it just slightly better than women when it comes to employment.

As for raising boys as opposed to boys…I think that is a same difference. We all want the same goals for our kids, ultimately. Live happy, healthy lives and find that right person. I think parents want that because they want to have grandkids so they can spoil kids all over again. Boys are raised to be gentlemen and treat women with respect. I totally agree with that. But having said that, men are more sex-driven than women. Not to say women don’t find that important, but, sorry people…men are dogs, as my dad constantly tells my sisters. Actually, I think that is a half-truth. Sure, men think about sex, but contrary to popular belief, we do not think about getting laid 24/7…at least, I don’t. Yes, I think about it but it is not the reason I am with the love of my life. I am not with the love of my life right now because we do it all the time. We value each other and respect each other. Plus we are exactly alike. We are both sides of the same coin.

In conclusion, men and women are different, but we are not so different. Despite everything I just said, comparing and contrasting. I value you as a human being. I do not care if you shave or not; circumcised or not; have a job or not; man or woman; sexually active or virgin; Jewish or Catholic or whatever…you are a person! Nothing more or less, at least not to me. Peace out Girl Scouts!

Author: AuTom Spectrum Blog

I have Autism and am a self-advocate and public speaker. On the side I do stand-up comedy. I live in Baltimore County and have an AMAZING girlfriend

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