AUTISM AND DATING

I read an article recently about Autism and dating. In the article, the opening sentence is, “Real talk: Dating is confusing.” Yeah that sounds about right. I have been dating the same girl for 7 years now and still don’t know everything about her. Nor will I ever know, probably.  Autism and dating are not really something you think of, but I am here to tell you that Autistic people are capable of dating. It just might be a little bit harder for them, that’s all. Look, I will be the first to admit it. I can be socially awkward sometimes. I also have a dirty sense of humor, so talking to people without inadvertently offending them can be a challenge for me at times…especially if that person is of the opposite gender. But then again, if I didn’t tell you I was on the Autism Spectrum, you probably would not know unless I told you. So that is tricky. How can you tell if someone is on the Spectrum or mentally disabled unless you ask them? And even then, how do you ask without offending that person? I don’t think you can.  Sex may be different, too. Not to get too graphic. You may not fully comprehend what you are getting into. So DON’T RUSH INTO THINGS! And that is going either way. Dating is the same for anyone. Get a “feel” for the person before you commit. My girlfriend and I were friends–JUST FRIENDS!–for about a year before I had the courage to ask her out. And I think that is because I knew she was “special”. She wasn’t just another girl I wanted to do and then dump. I am not that kind of person. It has worked out really well! Autistic people in relationships, I feel, struggle with the same hardships “normal” people in relationships do. They argue; they come from different backgrounds; and, unfortunately, they also get divorced. I hope to God that never happens to me and the love of my life. My girlfriend and I argue and have our differences and are religiously different. (She’s Jewish and I am Catholic). But who the Hell cares? I know I don’t. Can’t we put those differences aside and see each other for what we are? Human beings.

Author: AuTom Spectrum Blog

I have Autism and am a self-advocate and public speaker. On the side I do stand-up comedy. I live in Baltimore County and have an AMAZING girlfriend

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